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Anonymous:What should you do when you start losing motivation to do good in school or even be at school?
You can be losing motivation for many reasons and I'm sure it's not surprising to you that questions similar to this came up a lot, coming from other students. Most likely this loss of motivation is coming from stress or distractions from school. Maybe the feeling that the workload isn't worth it. The first thing that you need to do is come to terms with the fact that stress is unavoidable at this school. There will always be endless amounts of work, but it's up to you how you will handle that. You need to find a balance between your school life and personal life. They are always going to get in the way of each other, but when it comes down to it you need to prioritize. What I've found works best is putting time aside for yourself on weekends. I know it's a drag to do homework on Fridays, but you'd be putting aside more time to relax on the weekend. It's important for you to be content with yourself. Know your hobbies and your interests so that you have other things that lift you up when you feel that school is taking up too much of your time. When you know yourself, you know the type of life you want for yourself in the future, but how will you get there? You will get there through hard work. So when you're avoiding homework and cursing your teachers, just remember the life you want for yourself. You aren't working hard just to pass the time. You can't find motivation anywhere else; you have to find it in yourself. Another thing you can do is treat yourself as a reward for working so hard. At the end of the week you deserve to kick back with some snacks and a movie and you deserve to sleep in an entire day if you please. There isn't a single thing you can do to feel better, but overall you can take care of yourself and think about your own success, not what teachers are asking from you.
Anonymous: I am currently in a relationship and I can say I'm very happy in this relationship, but my boyfriend is very demanding for sex and I don't know how to say no to him (meaning I don't know how to stop it).
Romantic relationships are supposed to be a source of love, support, and comfort. If there is a part of your relationship that is making you uncomfortable, it's best that you sit down with your partner and have a serious conversation about it. If you think that's too much, then maybe next time speak up and say no. It doesn't sound like you've tried saying no before because you don't know how he'll react, but you are entitled to the right to say no and the right to decide which activities you want to or don't want to take part. There's no reason for that to be a problem for your boyfriend and if it turns out that he isn't okay with your decision to not have sex at certain times, then maybe you need to take time to think about if it's worth it. Is it worth it to keep doing things you don't want to or don't feel like doing, if this person isn't considering your feelings?
